Getting What You Want by Getting offon What you Don't Like

 

Life seems to be going in a negative pattern and you just can’t figure out why. All your relationships such. Your lovers cheat all the time, are controlling, narcistic etc. What is the deal why do you always get these kinds of partners. Your financial state is in the doldrums. Can’t hold a job too long, maybe you cannot even get a job. Sometimes you just cannot save your funds. Motivation is terrible and your creative consciousness is blocked up. You don’t want any of this negativity, do you? Or maybe you do want it.

Consciously no one wants poverty, messed up relationships or blocked up creativity. There is a difference between the conscious and the unconscious. Sigmund Freud or Carl Jung would say that you are bringing this about unconsciously. Maybe you feel you deserve it or that you are not worthy. It is a quick trip back to our subconscious and reliving our childhood. This author takes a different tack.

Everything is subconscious all to true. She makes use of Ceremonial Magic, Tantra, Buddhism, Freud Jung and a slew of others. She quotes them quite liberally and I love it. That is, we love it. Deep down inside we really want to feel this negativity. It is almost like we are addicted.

We get off on it. The pain and misery turn us on. At heart we are sadomasochists. If you don’t agree, look at the world around you, pain, suffering, and misery are everywhere. If God made us in his image, then he is just as bad. So, in a nutshell our subconscious creates these situations. If you want to change your life, then just admit it you like it.

The only way to make your life better is to plunge into your shadow, that dark secret part of yourself you keep hidden from others and your ego. Go on, experience it and enjoy. The experience will be cathartic. Because the only way out is to plunge into the center, and it is cathartic.

Looking at poor finances, you have no job, and you cannot make rent. Horrible situation yet secretly it turns you on. Go on and feel it. Then take the next step and increase your tortuous desire by making a pledge to go out on 30 interviews with the hope of getting 30 rejections. Double the pain but life is not so grand as to grant you your wish and will give you a few acceptance letters. If you are lonely and single and can’t find love, then dread the next relationship. Afterall it is inevitable and since you enjoy the pain of singlehood so much the universe will probably take that joy away from you as well.

This method uses BDSM as a metaphor. You will find scant references to whips, chains and handcuffs. This is self help but not that light and love stuff that tells you the law of attractions tells you to focus on the good stuff. This false positivity does not work at all. Because deep down you are already manifesting what you want but the ego just won’t accept it. Jung said that until you bring the unconscious to consciousness it will forever run your life and you will call it destiny and fate.

Well to remember that Existential Kink or EK should not be used on childhood drama or be used while you are depressed. This book has a method and exercises along with some meditations. It does not involve getting tied up.